same but different

tentunya.. mungkin..
dah selalu dan berulang kali
kita dengar, baca, diberitahu, diingatkan
kita alami dan hadapi sendiri
dalam pelbagai situasi dan keadaan
dalam pelbagai bentuk dan cara

namun..
sekadar berkongsi
dan saling mengingati

******

(forwarded by a good friend
- thank you Dr. Cool)



THE ART OF LETTING GO
by Dr. Alan Zimmerman

Sooner or later, everyone you know
will disappoint you in some way.

They'll say something or fail to say something
that will hurt you.
And they'll do something or fail to do something
that will anger you.

It's inevitable.

Unfortunately, you make things worse
when you stew over someone's words and deeds.

When you dwell on
a rude remark or an insensitive action
made by another person,
you're headed for deeper problems.

In fact, the more you dwell on these things,
the more bitter you'll get.

You'll find your joy, peace and happiness
slipping away.

And you'll find your productivity slowing down
as you spend more and more time
thinking about the slight or telling others about it.

Eventually,
if you don't stop doing it, you'll even get sick.

So what should you do
the next time someone betrays you?

TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS.

Even though the other person may be at fault,
even though the other person wronged you,
you are still responsible for your own feelings.

In other words,
other people do not "cause" your feelings.
You choose them.


For example;

Two different people could be told
that their suggestions made at the staff meeting
were "stupid and idiotic."

One person may "choose" to feel so hurt
that he never speaks up at any other meeting again.
The other person may "choose" to feel sorry for the critic,
sorry that the critic couldn't see
the wisdom and necessity of her suggestions.

As long as you blame other people for your feelings,
as long as you believe other people caused your feelings,
you're stuck. You're a helpless victim.

But if you recognize the fact
that you choose your feelings
and you are responsible for your feelings,
there's hope.

You can take some time
to think about your feelings.
And you can decide
what is the best thing to say or do.

Then, you've got to learn
to WALK AWAY FROM DISAPPOINTMENT.

It's difficult to do, but it's possible.